Last Sunday marked International Women’s Day, a day that celebrates the social, economic and political achievements of women around the world. It is also an opportunity to reflect on where women’s participation still matters deeply and for me, that’s focused on women in mediation and peace processes and whether our voices are heard. Across international diplomacy, community mediation and workplace
Spot the signs conflict needs workplace mediation, from avoidance to repeat issues. Learn the benefits of mediation in the workplace and what to do next.
Read moreIt seems like a contradiction. Healthy workplace conflict? When have you ever experienced this? But it is possible. Conflict can be diverted away from active and passive forms of aggression to constructive ways to encourage harmless competition between teams; to cultivate helpful discussions to facilitate feedback about an initiative; to mediate between teams in conflict so that new boundaries can
Read moreNo matter what you do , you won’t get away from conflict. It shows up in the form of the silent treatment, disagreements, differences of opinions, debates and competition. At its worst, it looks like physical fights or shouting matches. The mistake people often make getting carried away with it, instead of dealing with drama by stepping away from it
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I used to have a colleague who would get angry about everything. He was unapproachable, touchy and really negative. As a young trainee lawyer, it was really hard to know how to handle his outbursts in meetings or after an alcohol fueled lunch (this was a long time ago…) I would freeze, repress my own irritation with him and find
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Conflict is often painted as something to avoid: messy, uncomfortable, and draining. But in reality, conflict is part of being human. It’s how we grow, clarify our needs, and build authentic relationships. That’s where self-care during conflict becomes essential. Yet when emotions intensify, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself. To overextend, overthink, or shut down completely. Self-care during conflict
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In my last post, I explored the reason conflict and grief often happen together. From inheritance disputes to clashing grieving styles. These tensions are natural, but they can also be overwhelming. In this follow-up, I want to share five practical strategies to help you navigate conflict after loss with more compassion, clarity, and self-care. 1. Name the Grief Beneath the
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Understanding covert narcissism is hard. It makes conflict confusing and hard to handle. This is why: Margaret * was a lovely lady. Kind, helpful, eager to make me feel supported. Her admiration of my work was vocal and well timed – in meetings and in public, to powerful people in the office hierarchy. Her praising of me made me a
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Deciding to move on from unresolved conflict is hard. When my father died, I didn’t want to celebrate anything. It was painful to see other people happy whilst I was suffering so much. In my culture, it’s not usual to attend anything celebratory such as weddings, for about a year after a death. I wanted to respect that for personal
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Have you ever presented a rock-solid argument, packed with facts and logic, only to watch the other person dig in deeper rather than reconsider? If so, you’ve encountered something psychologists call belief perseverance—the tendency to hold on to beliefs even when confronted with undeniable evidence to the contrary. We’ve seen this recently in politics. Those who support Trump and those
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